Communication mistakes in relationships are the invisible bridge between a passing comment and a full-blown argument. You say something that feels reasonable to you. Your partner hears something completely different. Two people, same conversation, two entirely different realities. Within minutes, you’re in a fight neither of you intended. The worst part? You’re not even fighting about the original topic anymore. You’re fighting about whether the fight is even valid. Communication mistakes in relationships aren’t about what you’re saying—they’re about what’s happening beneath the surface, in the nervous systems and survival patterns that took decades to build. When you understand the roots of these mistakes, you can finally stop the cycle.
That’s you if every conversation with your partner feels like you’re speaking different languages.
Table of Contents
- What Are the Most Common Communication Mistakes in Relationships?
- Why Do Conversations Turn Into Fights? Reality Arguments Explained
- What Is “Taking Inventory” and Why Does It Destroy Relationships?
- How the Worst Day Cycle™ Drives Communication Breakdown
- How Your Survival Persona Hijacks Communication
- How Communication Mistakes Show Up in Every Area of Your Life
- How the Emotional Authenticity Method™ Transforms Communication
- How the Authentic Self Cycle™ Replaces Conflict With Connection
- Frequently Asked Questions
- The Bottom Line
- Recommended Reading
- Take the Next Step
What Are the Most Common Communication Mistakes in Relationships?
There are two communication mistakes that sit at the root of nearly every fight couples have. The first is what I call a reality argument. The second is taking inventory. Most couples don’t even know these have names. They just know that conversations spiral.
Sound familiar: you’re explaining your perspective and your partner keeps insisting you’re wrong about your own experience?
Reality arguments happen when two people see the same situation and both believe their version of what happened is objectively correct. It’s not about opinion. It’s about fact. He thinks she was dismissive in that conversation last week. She knows she wasn’t. She was just tired. Not dismissive—tired. He felt dismissed. She knows the truth about her own intentions. Two realities. One situation. Both certain.
That’s the dance where you’re explaining yourself and your partner is building a case against you.
The second mistake is taking inventory. This is when you tell your partner what they should think, feel, or do. Not once, but as a pattern. “You never listen.” “You always get defensive.” “You’re just like your mother.” “You need to be more grateful.” “You shouldn’t feel that way.” These aren’t invitations to change—they’re verdicts. They’re evidence in an ongoing trial where your partner is the defendant and you’re the prosecutor.
Taking inventory is the slow erosion of intimacy disguised as feedback. It tells your partner that who they are isn’t enough. What they feel isn’t valid. How they see things is wrong. Over time, your partner doesn’t argue back about the inventory. They just disappear into it. They get quieter. Smaller. More defended.
Sound familiar: the look in your partner’s eyes when they realize you’re building a case against them, not building a bridge toward them?
Why Do Conversations Turn Into Fights? Reality Arguments Explained
A reality argument isn’t a disagreement. It’s a collision. You’re both right, from where you’re standing. And that’s the problem.
Your felt experience is your truth. When your partner dismisses it, they’re not disagreeing with your opinion—they’re dismissing your experience. That lands as a threat. To your nervous system, being told “that didn’t happen” or “you’re overreacting” is being told “your reality doesn’t matter.” Your brain doesn’t parse the philosophical nuance. It just knows: I’m not safe. My world doesn’t match his world. One of us is lying.
That’s you thinking: if he really loved me, he’d believe me without question.
The fight escalates because both of you are now in a defensive crouch. You’re not trying to understand anymore. You’re trying to prove. Prove what happened. Prove your intentions. Prove you’re not the bad guy. The more you prove, the more defensive your partner becomes, which makes you feel even more unheard, which makes you prove harder.
A reality argument is two people caught in the same moment, experiencing two completely different realities, and both convinced the other person is either crazy, dishonest, or doesn’t care. By the time you’re thirty minutes into it, the original moment doesn’t even matter. What matters is: will my partner ever understand me?
The answer is: not while you’re both in fight mode. Fight mode is a nervous system state. Logic can’t touch it. Evidence can’t touch it. Only safety touches it.
What Is “Taking Inventory” and Why Does It Destroy Relationships?
Taking inventory is the habit of keeping score. It’s cataloging your partner’s failures, flaws, and shortcomings. It’s the mental list that grows every time they disappoint you. And when you’re angry or hurt, you pull out that list and read it to them like an indictment.
That’s the moment you say: “This is exactly what you always do. You never think about my feelings. You’re just like your father. You don’t deserve to be in a relationship.”
Taking inventory usually starts as protection. You’ve been hurt. You’re looking for patterns so you can predict the pain and maybe avoid it next time. But prediction becomes judgment. You start assuming your partner’s motives. He’s not listening because he doesn’t care. She’s defensive because she’s controlling. He’s withdrawn because he’s selfish. These aren’t observations anymore. They’re stories. And once a story hardens into fact, your partner becomes a character in a narrative where they’re always the villain.
When you take inventory on your partner, you’re not describing who they are—you’re describing who your survival persona needs them to be. Your falsely empowered self needs a villain to prove you’re right. Your disempowered self needs to confirm that you’re stuck with someone incapable of change. Your adapted wounded child needs to prove that vulnerability will always be punished.
The inventory never stops at one conversation. It bleeds into the next fight, the next disappointment, the next morning when your partner does something small that activates the whole pattern again. Your partner feels the accumulated weight of every mistake they’ve made, every character flaw you’ve assigned to them, every time they’ve been found guilty without trial.
Sound familiar: your partner saying “you always bring up the past” and you insisting that history matters?
History matters. But history becomes a weapon when it becomes inventory. When it becomes evidence instead of context. The difference is everything.
How the Worst Day Cycle™ Drives Communication Breakdown
Behind every reality argument and every inventory session is the Worst Day Cycle™. This is the neurobiological pattern that hijacks your nervous system and transforms a conversation into a courtroom.
The Worst Day Cycle™ has four stages: Trauma, Fear, Shame, and Denial. Let me walk you through it.
Stage 1: Trauma
Trauma here doesn’t mean only big events. It means moments where you weren’t safe—physically, emotionally, or psychologically. Maybe your parent was unpredictable. Maybe you were betrayed by someone you trusted. Maybe you grew up in a house where you had to be perfect to avoid punishment. Maybe you learned that your emotions were inconvenient. These moments are encoded in your nervous system. They’re not just memories. They’re templates.
That’s you if you flinch when your partner raises their voice, even though they’ve never hit you.
Stage 2: Fear
Years later, your partner does something that echoes that original trauma. It might be small. They sigh during a conversation. They check their phone while you’re talking. They disagree with you. Your nervous system doesn’t distinguish between the original trauma and this echo. It just knows: danger. Your amygdala—the fear center in your brain—floods your body with cortisol and adrenaline. Your rational mind goes offline. You’re in fight, flight, or freeze mode.
Fear in the Worst Day Cycle™ is the nervous system’s way of trying to protect you from a threat it perceives as imminent. Your partner isn’t actually threatening you. But your nervous system learned a long time ago that situations like this one end in pain.
Stage 3: Shame
Once fear takes over, shame arrives quickly. Shame is the feeling that something is wrong with you. Not that you did something wrong—that you ARE something wrong. In this moment, your partner has confirmed what you suspected all along: you’re not worthy of being treated well. You’re not lovable. You’re not safe. You’re the problem.
That’s the voice that says: he doesn’t really love you, he’s just tolerating you.
Shame is a chemical state. When shame floods your system, you can’t access the part of your brain that remembers you’re loved. You can’t remember your partner’s good intentions. You can’t think clearly. You can only feel: small, wrong, unworthy.
Stage 4: Denial
The last stage is denial—or what I call self-deception. This is where your nervous system tries to escape the unbearable feeling of shame by denying the reality that caused it. You deny your own feelings. “I’m not upset.” You deny the situation. “That didn’t even happen.” You deny your partner’s perspective. “You’re just being dramatic.” Denial is the nervous system’s attempt to go numb, to escape the pain of shame by refusing to feel it.
Denial in the context of communication mistakes looks like stonewalling, dismissing, minimizing, or refusing to acknowledge what just happened. It’s not conscious dishonesty. It’s a survival mechanism. Feeling the shame is too much. So the nervous system just… stops.
Sound familiar: the moment you shut down and your partner can’t reach you?
The Worst Day Cycle™ completes in seconds. From the moment your partner sighs to the moment you’re in denial about the whole thing happening—it’s neurobiological speed. You don’t have time to think. You only have time to survive. And once you’re both in the cycle, communication stops. What’s left is two nervous systems in fight mode, trying to prove they’re not the villain in each other’s survival story.
How Your Survival Persona Hijacks Communication
A survival persona is who you learned to be in order to stay safe. It’s not a conscious choice. It’s a brilliant adaptation. When you were young and the world felt dangerous, you became someone who could manage that danger. That persona worked. It kept you alive. It kept you functioning. But now it’s running the show in your relationship, and it’s terrible at intimacy.
There are three primary survival personas: the falsely empowered, the disempowered, and the adapted wounded child.
The Falsely Empowered Survival Persona
If you developed the falsely empowered persona, you learned that the world respected strength and dismissed weakness. So you became strong. Competent. In control. You don’t ask for help. You don’t show vulnerability. You know what’s best, and you’re usually right. When communication breaks down, your falsely empowered self goes into overdrive. You take inventory to prove you’re the reasonable one. You engage in reality arguments to establish that your way of seeing things is the correct way. You lead with certainty because certainty feels like safety.
That’s you if you’re the one who usually “wins” arguments but feel more alone after winning them.
The falsely empowered survival persona believes that love means being right, being in control, being the strong one. It doesn’t know how to be vulnerable. Vulnerability feels like weakness. And weakness feels like death.
The Disempowered Survival Persona
The disempowered persona learned the opposite lesson. You learned that the world had all the power, and you had none. So you became small. Accommodating. You learned to read people and adjust yourself accordingly. You became an expert at knowing what others wanted and trying to provide it. In relationships, your disempowered self tends toward compliance. You go along with your partner’s reality even when it doesn’t match yours. You don’t argue back in reality arguments—you just accept the verdict. You accept the inventory. You internalize the criticism. Your shame is already so big that your partner’s judgment just confirms what you already believe about yourself.
Sound familiar: staying silent when you disagree, nodding along, then feeling a slow burn of resentment?
The disempowered survival persona believes that love means disappearing into what your partner needs, making yourself small enough to fit. By the time you realize you’ve lost yourself, you’re not sure how to find your way back.
The Adapted Wounded Child Survival Persona
The adapted wounded child learned that emotions were dangerous. Maybe they were mocked. Maybe they were punished. Maybe they were simply ignored. So this persona learned to hide feelings. To keep the peace. To be “the easy one.” In relationships, the adapted wounded child gets very good at managing everyone else’s emotions while abandoning their own. Communication breaks down because you’re not actually communicating. You’re performing. You’re showing your partner the version of you that you think will keep them from leaving. When conflict arises, the adapted wounded child either shuts down completely or explodes—there’s usually no middle ground because there’s been no practice in the middle ground.
That’s the one who says “I’m fine” while crying, or who seems calm right before they lose it completely.
The adapted wounded child survival persona believes that love means feeling nothing, staying small, and keeping everyone comfortable at the cost of your own authenticity.
Most of us aren’t just one survival persona. We’re a blend. And in relationships, two blended survival personas collide. A falsely empowered person meets a disempowered person. A falsely empowered person meets an adapted wounded child. Two adapted wounded children. Whatever the combination, the communication becomes about managing the personas instead of meeting the people underneath them.
How Communication Mistakes Show Up in Every Area of Your Life
Communication mistakes don’t stay confined to your romantic relationship. They ripple through every connection you have.
That’s you if you’re realizing the same fight happens at work, with your family, and in friendships.
In Family Relationships
With your parents and siblings, communication mistakes often look like the original trauma replayed. You’re fighting about the same things you’ve always fought about. Your parent dismisses your perspective the way they always have. You defend yourself the way you always have. Nothing changes because the neurobiological patterns are decades old. Your survival persona was literally built to manage this specific dynamic.
In Romantic Relationships
This is where the stakes feel highest. You’re not just communicating with someone—you’re trying to build a life with them. Communication mistakes here become a slow erosion of intimacy. Each reality argument, each inventory session, each moment of denial pushes your partner further away. The relationship doesn’t usually end in a dramatic blowup. It ends in slow disconnect. You’re both still there, but you’re speaking different languages.
In Friendships
Friendships often become a place where your survival persona feels safer because there’s less at stake. But the communication mistakes are still there. You might be the friend who takes inventory on others, always ready to point out what they’re doing wrong. Or you might be the friend who disappears into what others need, never asking for anything yourself. Real friendship requires the same authenticity that real romance does, and communication mistakes corrode that just as effectively.
At Work
Your survival persona runs your professional relationships too. The falsely empowered persona becomes the overcontrolling manager. The disempowered persona becomes the person who gets walked over. The adapted wounded child becomes the person everyone likes because they never rock the boat. Communication mistakes at work look like misalignment, conflict, and a work culture where people hide who they really are.
In Your Relationship With Your Body and Health
Communication mistakes extend even to how you talk to yourself about your body. Your survival persona has opinions about your health. Strong opinions. If you’re falsely empowered, you might push your body too hard, dismissing its signals. If you’re disempowered, you might abandon your body’s needs entirely. If you’re an adapted wounded child, you might use food or exercise to manage emotions instead of feeling them. The communication between you and your body is a reflection of the communication between your parts.
Communication mistakes are a systemic pattern, not a relational glitch. They show up everywhere because they’re hardwired into your nervous system. Fixing them in one area means fixing them everywhere.
How the Emotional Authenticity Method™ Transforms Communication
The Emotional Authenticity Method™ is a five-step process that interrupts the Worst Day Cycle™ before it hijacks your communication. It’s not about changing what you say. It’s about changing what’s happening in your nervous system before you say it.
Step 1: Somatic Down-Regulation
The first step is bringing your nervous system back online. When you’re in the Worst Day Cycle™, your rational brain is offline. You’re running on pure survival instinct. You can’t think clearly. You can’t access empathy. You can’t remember that your partner loves you. So the first step is: stop talking. Get your body regulated.
That’s the moment you step away from the conversation and take five deep breaths.
Down-regulation looks different for different people. For some, it’s cold water on your face. For others, it’s a walk. For others, it’s breathwork. The goal is simple: bring your nervous system from fight/flight/freeze mode back to a state where your prefrontal cortex is online. Where you can think. Where you can feel without being consumed by fear.
Step 2: What Am I Feeling?
Once your nervous system is regulated, the next step is to identify the feeling. Not the story. The feeling. You’re not asking “what happened?” You’re asking “what am I experiencing right now?” Anger? Fear? Shame? Loneliness? Rejection?
Most of us have been taught to skip this step entirely, to move straight from emotion to action. We feel hurt and we attack. We feel fear and we defend. We skip the part where we actually sit with what we’re feeling. The Emotional Authenticity Method™ says: pause. Name it. What’s happening in you right now?
Step 3: Where In My Body Am I Feeling This?
Emotions are not abstract. They’re physical. Fear lives in your chest. Shame lives in your throat. Anger lives in your hands. When you locate the feeling in your body, you’re doing something powerful: you’re connecting your mind to your nervous system. You’re bringing awareness to the physical reality of what you’re experiencing. This is where healing begins—in the body, not in the story.
That’s you if you’ve never noticed where anger actually lives in your body.
Step 4: What’s the Earliest Memory of This Feeling?
This step is the bridge between your present moment and your past. The feeling you’re having right now isn’t just about this conversation. It’s connected to something older. Your nervous system recognized an echo of an old threat. So you ask: when did I first feel this? What was happening? This isn’t about blame. It’s about understanding that your nervous system is trying to protect you from something that happened long ago.
When you connect your present feeling to its earliest origin, you break the spell of immediacy. You realize: oh, I’m not just reacting to what my partner did right now. I’m reacting to who I had to become to survive my past.
Step 5: Who Would I Be Without This Survival Pattern?
This is the question that changes everything. Without the falsely empowered need to be right. Without the disempowered need to disappear. Without the adapted wounded child need to feel nothing. Who would you actually be? What would you want to say? How would you want to show up in this conversation?
Sound familiar: realizing that what you want to say and what your survival persona is forcing you to say are completely different things?
The Emotional Authenticity Method™ doesn’t give you a script. It gives you access to yourself. To your actual wants. Your actual feelings. Your actual perspective. Not the persona-protected version. The real version.
Once you’ve worked through these five steps, you’re no longer in the Worst Day Cycle™. You’re regulated. You’re connected to your actual feelings. You understand what’s being activated. You have access to who you actually want to be. Now you can communicate from authenticity instead of from survival.
How the Authentic Self Cycle™ Replaces Conflict With Connection
Once you can access your authenticity through the Emotional Authenticity Method™, the next move is the Authentic Self Cycle™. This is what happens when both people in a relationship show up from their actual selves instead of from their survival personas.
The Authentic Self Cycle™ has four stages: Truth, Responsibility, Healing, and Forgiveness.
Stage 1: Truth
Truth means telling your actual reality. Not the defended version. Not the version designed to win the argument. Not the version designed to protect you. Your actual reality. “I felt hurt when you said that” instead of “you’re always hurting me.” “I was scared you didn’t care” instead of “you never think about my feelings.” “I didn’t know how to tell you” instead of “you’re impossible to talk to.”
That’s you if you’ve never actually told your partner what you’re really feeling, underneath all the defense.
Truth in the Authentic Self Cycle™ is risky because it requires vulnerability. It means your partner might reject you. Might dismiss you. Might use this against you. But it’s also the only place real connection can happen. Connection requires that you be known. And you can’t be known if you’re always performing.
Stage 2: Responsibility
Responsibility means owning your part. Not your partner’s part. Your part. How did your survival persona show up? What did you do to protect yourself that might have hurt your partner? Where did you take inventory instead of building a bridge? Where did you engage in a reality argument instead of trying to understand?
This isn’t about blame. It’s not about flagellating yourself. It’s about recognizing that you had a part in how this unfolded. That you’re not helpless. That your choices matter.
Sound familiar: the moment you realize your survival persona’s protection mechanism became your partner’s wounding?
Stage 3: Healing
Healing means turning toward your partner instead of away. It means creating the safety that allows both of you to come out of survival mode. It means saying “I’m sorry” and actually meaning it. Not a defensive sorry. Not a sorry designed to move past this quickly. A sorry that acknowledges: I did something that hurt you, and I’m committed to understanding what happened and doing it differently.
Healing in the Authentic Self Cycle™ is the moment the nervous system finally feels safe enough to soften. It’s the moment you can actually listen to your partner’s perspective without immediately constructing a counter-argument. It’s the moment you can hold their pain without it threatening your sense of self.
Stage 4: Forgiveness
Forgiveness isn’t about condoning. It’s not about pretending it didn’t hurt. It’s about releasing the grip of the past on the present. It’s about recognizing that your partner, like you, was doing the best they could with the nervous system they had. That they weren’t trying to hurt you—they were trying to survive. That underneath the defense, underneath the survival persona, is a person who loves you.
That’s the moment you can finally see your partner as a whole human being instead of as a character in your survival story.
The Authentic Self Cycle™ is where real intimacy lives. Not in being right. Not in winning arguments. Not in proving that your reality is the correct reality. In being seen. Being known. Being loved for who you actually are, not for the person your survival persona learned to be.
Frequently Asked Questions About Communication Mistakes in Relationships
How do I know if I’m in a reality argument?
You’re in a reality argument when both people are insisting they’re right about what happened, what was intended, or what was said. You’re not debating ideas. You’re debating facts. The conversation sounds like: “You said this.” “No, I didn’t.” “Yes, you did.” “You’re lying.” The goal has shifted from understanding to proving. If you’re trying to get your partner to admit they were wrong, you’re in a reality argument.
Is taking inventory ever okay in a relationship?
There’s a difference between noticing patterns and taking inventory. Noticing a pattern is internal awareness: “I’ve noticed that when I express a need, my partner often gets defensive. I want to understand why.” Taking inventory is external judgment: “You always get defensive when I need something. It’s just like when your mother wouldn’t listen to you.” One is self-awareness. The other is prosecution. The line is: are you trying to understand, or are you building a case?
Can someone have more than one survival persona?
Most people are a blend. You might be falsely empowered at work and disempowered at home. You might be an adapted wounded child in your romantic relationships but falsely empowered in your friendships. The personas aren’t fixed identities—they’re adaptive strategies. You became different things in different contexts because different contexts required different survival mechanisms. Understanding which persona shows up in which situation is part of the healing work.
What if my partner won’t do the Emotional Authenticity Method™?
You can’t force your partner to do this work. But here’s what’s true: when you change how you show up, the dynamic shifts. When you stop taking inventory, your partner has less to defend against. When you speak from your actual feelings instead of from your survival persona, your partner has a real person to relate to instead of a defensive wall. Change doesn’t always require both people to commit at the same time. It often requires one person to commit first, and watch what happens when they do.
How long does it take to break these patterns?
It depends on how long you’ve been building them. If your nervous system has been running the same survival strategy for thirty years, your brain has built actual neural pathways around that strategy. You’re not just changing your mind. You’re rewiring your brain. That’s weeks and months and years of consistent practice. But the good news is: every single time you interrupt the pattern, you’re building a new neural pathway. Every time you choose authenticity over defense, you’re making a deposit in a new account. The patterns loosen faster than you think once you start noticing them.
What if I realize I’ve been taking inventory on my partner for years?
First: awareness is everything. You can’t change what you can’t see. Second: your partner probably already knows. They’ve felt it. The weight of being continuously judged erodes a relationship slowly. But here’s the repair: you acknowledge it. You take responsibility for it. You recognize what you were doing and why your survival persona felt the need to do it. And you commit to doing something different. That conversation—that real conversation where you’re vulnerable about your own fear and shame instead of prosecuting their flaws—is where the repair begins. Go through the 10 Do’s and Don’ts for a Great Relationship to see what shifts.
The Bottom Line
Communication mistakes in relationships aren’t about being a bad communicator. They’re about a nervous system that learned to survive by doing certain things—being right, being small, being numb. Those strategies kept you alive. They kept you functioning. But they’re terrible at creating intimacy.
The path forward isn’t about becoming a better arguer. It’s about becoming more authentic. It’s about understanding that beneath every reality argument is a person terrified that their reality doesn’t matter. Beneath every inventory session is a person protecting themselves against more pain. Beneath every moment of denial is a nervous system that can’t handle another drop of shame.
Sound familiar: the moment you realize that every fight with your partner is actually a conversation between two survival personas that are terrified of being seen?
When you understand that, everything changes. You stop trying to win. You start trying to heal. You stop trying to prove your partner wrong. You start trying to help them feel safe enough to be right about their own experience. You stop taking inventory. You start taking responsibility. You stop living in the Worst Day Cycle™. You start living in the Authentic Self Cycle™.
That’s where real communication begins. That’s where real intimacy is possible. That’s where your partner gets to meet the actual you instead of the survival persona you’ve been performing your whole life.
And that changes everything.
Recommended Reading
If you’re ready to go deeper into understanding communication mistakes and healing relationship patterns, these resources have shaped my work and my clients’ transformations:
- Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody — the foundational text on how childhood trauma creates codependent communication patterns and survival personas.
- When the Body Says No by Gabor Maté — how chronic emotional suppression and communication breakdown manifest as physical illness.
- Codependent No More by Melody Beattie — the classic guide to recognizing when you’re taking inventory instead of taking responsibility.
- The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown — how shame drives defensive communication and why vulnerability is the path to real connection.
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk — the neuroscience of how trauma lives in the body and hijacks communication.
Start with The Feelings Wheel to build awareness of what you’re actually feeling beneath the survival persona’s story.
Take the Next Step
Understanding communication mistakes is the first step. Doing the work to rewire your nervous system is the second. I’ve built several paths for you depending on where you are right now:
Emotional Blueprint Starter Course — Individual ($79) — A guided journey through understanding your survival persona, the Worst Day Cycle™, and how to access your Authentic Self. Start here if you want to understand yourself before trying to fix your relationships.
Relationship Starter Course — Couples ($79) — Built for both partners. Walk through the Emotional Authenticity Method™ together. Learn how to interrupt reality arguments before they escalate.
Why We Can’t Stop Hurting Each Other ($479) — The deepest couples work. Tools, frameworks, and daily practices to rewire how you communicate.
Why High Achievers Fail at Love ($479) — For the falsely empowered. Learn why being right is destroying your relationships.
The Shutdown Avoidant Partner ($479) — For those who shut down, check out emotionally, or disappear into work.
Tier 1: Mapping the Blueprint ($1,379) — The full integration. Deep work for those ready to fundamentally rewire how they show up in every relationship.
Download the Feelings Wheel — the free tool used in Step 2 of the Emotional Authenticity Method™ to build emotional granularity.
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